Spoiled Pickings

I never in my life heard the term “bad picker” so much in my life since the past few years. Could it be possible that the good ones are becoming so few, they’re hard to pick? It seems to me, the culture of victim blaming has become so far entrenched in our society that women are not only being persecuted for who they have sexual contact with but also romantic. Is it such a shame to let people who seem well suited for partnership take a shot at it? Does it become the woman’s fault when a man decides to unmask and show that it was all an act to get her to penetrate her walls? When situations don’t go as expected, is it delightful optimism to blame or is it just a case of unfortunate events? So many unanswered questions to be explored, so little time. I think, instead of focusing on who’s at fault, our focus should be on accountability. In taking accountability, blame is not delivered either way. All it means is that the involved parties acknowledge the possibilities in how a certain expected outcome, was not achieved. It’s not about being fumbled, manipulated, or otherwise mishandled by past, present, nor potential partners. It’s about understanding we’re all human and possess the autonomy to decide how we want to move in this world. I learned a long time ago that we treat people how to treat us. In this economy, nobody has the luxury of wasting time. I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again; time is the most valuable commodity. No one is worth a minute more of wasting it after showing you they’re not worth it. I’ll leave you with this, time heals all aches yet after a certain point, that same pain can be a silent killer.

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